Yesterday I had a golf lesson with the course pro. A nice guy who hit that perfect middle between “guy’s guy” and “ladies man”. We broke down my swing into slow motion. I formed internal images of what I want and he gave me several swing exercises to practice. The exercises give me feedback. I can hear and feel if I am doing it right. My body will learn and my head will follow.
This makes me wish for the same help in relationship skills. Bring the body and the mind will follow. Change your behavior and your thinking will align. Breakdown the new skill into baby steps and master each tiny change. Then practice at home. One day I will simply swing and hit the ball high and far. Someday I will easily and naturally say, “No”, “Yes” or “This is what will work best for me.”