The phrase “never up never in” arises in golf when the ball is on the green and the golfer does not putt hard enough to get the ball close to the hole. You have to hit the ball with enough weight or oomph to get it close enough to get it in, thus if you are never up, you’ll never be in. You have to be willing to hit hard enough to get the ball to the cup.
If we take this metaphor off the golf course “NUNI” can mean that you have to be willing to fully engage in life, to play full out and to take risks.
So why date again after a divorce? Or risk unrequited love in midlife? Why let your body take the lead and allow your libido to soar? You could overshoot the goal—just as you might in golf—but if you are “never up never in” you’ll also miss the chance to reach your goals in love and in life. If you want to find great love in mid-or -later life then you have to be willing to take a risk; you have to be willing to take your very best shot.
Never up, never in. Golf, life and love. Don’t hold back. Don’t save it for another day. Swing.