Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Playing Faster is Easier Than Playing Slower

Well, I learned a lot yesterday playing in the charity tournament with John and our friends. Because of the charity scramble/best ball format--and because there were 160 golfers to play 18 hours --we had to move fast. And speed helped my game!

I discovered that my nerves had to give way to speed. While I began nervous--"Oh God--they are going to see me swing." But I did not want us to be the foursome that kept everyone waiting so I learned to play "ready golf". Get out, set up, swing, take what you get and get going.

And it helped. I kept moving. I watched the better players. Riding in the cart was kinda fun. (I never use a cart on my own--I pretend to be a purist but I really love the fast walking between holes.) But in a cart we got a breeze and that helped too.

And because it was "best ball" I knew I couldn't hurt the team. The others were good golfers--and very gracious gofers--so I paid attention and listened to a few gentle, indirect comments and make a few adjustments as I could. And I laughed a lot.

I think I could do this again.

PS. The black and white plus cream--with silk belt --really worked well. No prizes for ensemble but it didn't hurt my game to know I looked good.

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Tournament Ready

Tomorrow John and I are playing together in a charity golf tournament. I'm nervous because we are playing with another couple and they, like John, are very good golfers. They are also our friends so they know the deal--that I talk better than I play. But still...

...and so I am preparing.

Now you might think that preparation would involve practice, but you would be wrong. John has gone to the driving range to warm up and try out his new rescue club but my method of preparation is more about attire. What to wear?

It will be 80 degrees and sunny but a light breeze. Because its a charity scramble we'll be in the course maybe five or six hours. That is a lot of wilt! And then there is the dinner afterward and the social part of the day. So hair is a factor too. Hat hair at dinner? What's a woman (of a certain age) to do?

I'm going with a visor--I have a Pittsburgh Pirates visor from our last visit to my hometown and I'll pair that with black shorts, white shirt, black and gold scarf belt.

I know, I know...I'm not going to win longest drive and I won't add much to our foursome's chances at low net but if there was an acknowledgment for best coordinated outfit? Well, I'd have a chance. And you know what they say--never up, never in--style!

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Women of a Certain Age and Clothes

Oh come on! We can't talk about women and golf and not talk about clothes. Not just golf clothes tho that is fun too. a survey:

Skirt? Shorts? Golf dress?
Answer: yes--have you seen golf dresses. They are cute and look comfortable. But I hesitate because as a less experienced golfer I think you need a high skill level to indulge in "special" golf attire. I mean, you don't want someone to think you care more about how you look than how you play. But then, I can do more about how I look than how I play:)

But the bigger clothing conversation is the talking  about clothes while women play golf: new stores, comfortable but chic shoes, big sales, favorite online strategies. (I just learned that Brooks Brothers makes online shopping so easy--and they have Petites.)

Yeah, that's what I talk about --in my head--during golf.

But we decided that this was a blog about golf for women of a "certain age" as the French say. We'll say that is over 45. There are many things to talk about that fall into the category of an over-45 -year old woman's life. One of my very favorite new resources is the blog, "Une Femme Certain Age". The link is below and this is so fun and full  of info and photos, and photos of real women over 50 (and 60) who still care about how they look. Not sure if they play golf but they do score.

Take a look. Here is the link:


Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Buddhist Practice on the Course

I was talking to a friend the other day about our commitments to practice spiritual principles in our daily lives. We are both quite ecumenical and eclectic in our spiritual studies—and we are both golfers.

So as the conversation shifted back and forth we realized that the driving range and the golf course are places to practice mindfulness and non-attachment.

It also became clear—and we laughed to realize—that golf is also a rich ground for all Buddhist “sins” or human attributes that we seek freedom from. Think about it. Golf presents opportunities minute by minute to experience greed, pride, illusion, grasping etc.

So maybe a walk on the green can be a spiritual practice if we are committed to stay aware and gently release these as they pop up.

One of the sutras says, “Desires are endless; I resolve to release all desire.” Yes, this is why golf is a game for a lifetime. And so very humbling.

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

Can You Do It Together?

I started playing golf because my love-- and later --husband played golf. But I never intended that we'd play together. In fact it was all that "togetherness" that made golf seem so unappealing for years when I watched as an outsider.

When I met Dave and learned that he played alone I was intrigued. I didn't know that golf could work for introverts so I took a lesson, bought a Sunday bag and took off on my own early in the morning. I loved it. I loved the solitude, I loved a beautiful course in morning. And I loved that I really, really was playing against myself.

Then as I got braver and we got closer we experimented with playing together. That required "House Rules" like 1. Don't Watch Me and 2. No Advice. Wisely Dave knew how to do this and the deal he suggested was: "If you ask me a question I will answer but otherwise I won't comment on your game."

Bravo. It worked. It also worked that I can play alongside him by playing the "Marvin Method" named after my friend Marvin who gave me this advice: "Hit your ball three times and then pick it up and move it to where your partner's ball is."  That way a beginner can play with anyone. Brilliant.

I thought of all this today when I read a helpful article in the Wall Street Journal about how couples can share a hobby and what it takes to make partnered play successful.

Here is the article--link below. Take a look.


Sunday, April 14, 2013

Golf is All About Relationships

Yes, and can you think of something that is not about relationships? We know that business is and parenting is and our faith communities are...so yes, of course golf is about relationships.

So I was just tickled when a former intern sent me this link and said, "Diane this is about you." Not the good at golf part--she knows better. I love golf; I'm not good at it. And maybe that's like having faith too: "God, I believe, please help my unbelief."

So take a look at the article from The New York Times. Here's the link:


Saturday, March 16, 2013

Is Golf Good for the President?

Is golf good for the President? We have the idea that it's good for the President of a Company but is it good for the President of our  Country? Here's some critique of our recent presidents--penchant and play--and the recent golf advice given  to President Obama.

Click below for the article in The Wall Street Journal March 16th,


Tuesday, February 26, 2013

High Tech Golf--Get the Aps

Here in the Northeast it's too cold to play but not to cold to prepare. Last week Pilates for Golf began at Pilates Principle in Latham. Nuhar teaches a stunning class that gets you both golf and swimsuit ready. No, I'm serious--real golf preparation and all the right stuff for posture and tone and if you fall in love with Pilates as I have the rest will follow.

But if you don't want to leave your chair until the grass is green you can still prepare by trying one of the many new golf aps. The link below from the Wall Street Journal has a great overview of online golf tips, teaching, web-based instruction or more. Just reading this will make you smile and plan ahead. guaranteed.


Friday, February 8, 2013

Winter Dreaming

Inside the kitchen cabinet  where I reach for my coffee cup each morning there is a small poster with this quote:   "In the depth of winter I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer." That was written by Albert Camus--philosopher, author and playwright.

I don't think Camus was a golfer. But he so well expresses a golfer's winter dream.

This weekend we are bracing for snow in the Northeast. Maybe as much as two feet is expected. It will be beautiful. The golf courses will be covered in white blankets. Children and adults will come with sleds and saucers and toboggans. They will laugh and scream and soar. They will love the golf course too.

But by my front door is a five-iron. It is waiting. It is reminding. It is patient. It is the symbol of the invincible summer that will come again for golfers.
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